Archive for May, 2011

I had forgotten the quite healing power of a sincere apology. I have focused on peacemaking from the active moral engagement side looking for a deeper understanding in conflict spirals, cycles of abuse, strategizing ways to combat aggressors. To find win/win solutions in with those whom I must seek to empathize and treat humanely and in my noble quest for peacemaking. I lost sight power of forgiveness.

I am auditing Dr. Malley –Morrisons’ course on the psychology of war and peace this summer. It is becoming a voyage full of an engaging class of young minds with poignant questions, captivating speakers, followed by reading of journal articles and papers written by the minds of those steamships and trawlers of the vast ocean of ethics, conflict, and discovery that makes up education.

Our first speaker Dr. Majed Ashy spoke on apology, forgiveness, and reconciliation. Ashy explained how the neurobiology of forgiveness produces positive changes the brain. His research in the affects of child abuse and brain mapping has reinforced his dedication to continue his work at Amherst. The parting words from Dr. Ashy were “Look me up on the internet” I’ve spent this morning reading and listening to his work on child abuse and forgiveness. http://www.wsradio.com/wsradio-player.cfm/type/windows/show/The-Doug-Noll-Show/segment/37595

Ashy’s lecture reminded me of the three aspects of apology that Randy Pausch spoke of in his book the Last Lecture which is roughly stated here are; 1. Say, I’m sorry. It’s the set up introducing the possibility for healing. 2. It is my fault taking responsibility for the action that has caused hurt, whether intentionally or not admit your part honestly and truthfully. 3. Ask how the harm can be undone or forgiven and be willing to accept their reply.

I can think of no better topic to begin a study of conflict than the importance of building a bridge of apology that brings together people who have felt separated by their differences.


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3 square feet in my kitchen or My secret garden

I got the bug to plant vegetables in my kitchen so far I have 1  pack of onion, chives, seeds and a bucket with thyme, lavender and basil those last three in the bucket are growing in the window. I have three milk jugs ( the plan is for 9) to grow the onions garlic and ginger in the window. It’s slow growing and I’m sure I will need to go to the hydroponics store and get on yet another FBI video. The hydroponics store is called “Home Grown” and sure they only sell stuff for indoor gardens african violets, “exotic varieties” and the odd carrot or two. You betcha, I’m going to believe that. nope. and neither do they.

I seriously want an indoor garden, in my 8×10 ft kitchen. The lavender is looking weak. There may just not be enough light. Oh well, another dream dashed in the northern climes.

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